expand_less What is [[Nonviolent Communication]] besides the four steps?It's understandable that this question comes up, because people often grab onto this clearest piece of NVC and mistake it for the whole, which is more of an approach or attitude. All of NVC's specific models and practices are simply strategies in service of that whole approach/attitude. Here are two other specific aspects of NVC that may help give a better sense of the whole:1) The dynamics among empathy (for other *and* self) and expression. NVC teaching often emphasizes empathy, but vulnerable expression - openly sharing what matters to me - is just as important. Empathy and expression are like mirror images - i tune into people's needs, what's behind their (or my own) actions or reactions, to help me get in touch with compassion for them. And when i speak, i reveal my needs, what's behind what i'm saying, to be open and perhaps inspire compassion and understanding in them. Awareness of the option always being there to empathize or express is central to NVC - neither is right or wrong, they are just two things to try.2) There are many key differentiations taught in NVC (most are taught in other processes too of course). The differentiation/dimension of needs vs. strategies is pretty core. In my introductions i try to cover that, observation vs. evaluation/interpretation, and request vs. demand (which is basically about non-attachment). The differentiation between doing NVC and being NVC is of particular importance. I generally prioritize actually living NVC with someone, or a group, over transmitting any particular ideas about NVC.I don't know of any really good resources about any of this for free online. Here is a good list of the differentiations: http://en.nvcwiki.com/index.php/Key_differentiations . Unfortunately there's not much information about what each differentiation actually means (but it's editable, so feel free to ask questions, or add things you understand!).This page is not editable by anyone, bit feel free to comment here: